It doesn’t necessarily mean that you don’t belong in Albany, but, yes, it sure does make life harder. And it’s hard to give yourself permission to put your professional life on hold when someone you love is ill, but that is what you may have to do — the best that you can hope for is that the people you are working with are supportive. And if they’re not — well, they can go jump in a frozen Adirondack lake. Love comes first — the rest is just details.